a four part happiness method that is easy to use, and works fast.
The more frequently you practice it, the faster it will work.
-- This is the first, very important,
part. The next two parts will require effort. The more you value
happiness, the more you will work at becoming happier. If you
really work at it, you will begin to feel much happier in two
weeks, or less. Aristotle said that happiness is "the best,
noblest, and most pleasant thing," "the highest good," and that
"we always choose happiness as an end in itself and never for the
sake of something else." Everything we do in life is either for
our own happiness or for the happiness of others. Happiness is
what life is all about!
-- I mean smile as continuously as you can throughout each
day. A closed-mouth "pleasant expression" smile is best. It is
comfortable to maintain for hours at a time, and is easy for those
around you to accept and appreciate. Dozens of experiments have
proven that simply smiling makes us feel happier. James D. Laird,
the social scientist who pioneered this research in 1974 found ten
years later that the effect works "automatically" for one half of
the population. He strongly suspects that it is a "learned
response," so if you don't immediately feel happier by smiling, be
patient. Soon you will feel the smiling-happiness connection
quickly and strongly.
Choose Your Thoughts
- This part works for all of us immediately! Usually our
thoughts come to us automatically from who knows where. If we're
lucky, these thoughts are pleasant and bring us happiness. If we
are less lucky, they are less pleasant and bring us less
happiness. Here in the United States we're not very lucky. Our
average happiness level is only 70 percent, and we are happy only
about 54 percent of the time.
For this part,
all you have to do is replace the "automatic" thoughts you have
with thoughts you CHOOSE to have. During times of the day when
your circumstances allow, say to yourself statements like "I feel
happy," or "I feel wonderful," or "I feel great." Say how good
you feel in many different ways. Our minds enjoy variety. Also
tell yourself that you like yourself because the research shows
that happiness has a lot to do with our self-esteem.
that feels pleasant will work. Some more examples are "I love my
life," "I like my friends," "I like my job," "My children are
great." Try to say more of the "I feel happy" kind of statements
than the others because they more simply and quickly create
Always stretch a bit beyond what you really believe. For
example, if you believe you are not happy, tell yourself that
you ARE happy, and you will soon come to not only believe it,
but also feel it. If you are already happy, tell yourself you
are VERY happy!
Laugh at Will
-- Self-willed, or
simulated, laughter is useful part of
my, and any other, fundamental happiness increase method
because many people seem not to be in touch with deep or
strong feelings of happiness. Although as toddlers we laugh,
on average, about 400 times each day, by the time we reach
adulthood we are laughing only 7 to 15 times each
day. Simulated laughter, which requires no object or reason
such as a joke, seems able to induce a powerful and visceral
pleasure. As a person gains experience with the stronger
feelings of happiness induced by laughter, this deeper
happiness will gradually become more accessible during "non-laughter" occasions.
Dr. Madan Kataria, of Bombay, India, popularized the
usefulness of laughing "for no reason"
and has established over
2,500 laughter clubs throughout the world.
That's all there is to
The more you value happiness, smile (remember...gently)
continuously, choose "happy" thoughts, and practice self-willed
laughter, the happier you will
become. The more time you spend each day working on your
happiness in this way, the faster you will become much happier
How do I know this happiness method works? I've been
researching happiness-increase techniques since 2002, and have used it
myself very successfully.
Try this simple
four part happiness method, and see for yourself how it can make
you just as happy as the happiest among us. After all,
aren't they the people we see smiling and laughing a lot, and
don't they often seem to be having very pleasant thoughts?